Safe or Happy?

As women, it is natural for us to have a guard up. This did not happen overnight. After bad experiences, we become more guarded: its instinct. Now most of us won’t blame you or compare you to those of the past, but our guard is present, sometimes it is higher up than others, depending on each person.
So what goes through my mind, having been hurt in the past and recently, is it easier to avoid putting your heart out there and be safe, or should we always take that chance???
Safe or happy?
I don’t feel being safe IS happy; it is being OKAY with being content.
We should never settle, men or women, for there are far greater things in life, regardless of if we’ve felt them, they are there. Timing is EVERYTHING… If the right person is in front of you, but the timing is off, I will not work period. It is a game, whether we like it or not.
But the thing about this game is WE make up the rules and WE control the moves. It is a blessing and a curse. I can personally say my wall is ever so high due to no one showing me proof of why I should take it down.
My wall guards and protects me, so until that man who secures my mind and proves to me my heart is in good hands, I feel like I can hold onto my heart, I know I will protect it.
But that doesn’t mean that everyone will hurt me, or hurt you. I feel like I will fall 100 times, be stabbed in the back 100 times, feel pain 100 times before that 1 time where I’m loved by another more than life itself.
So should we be safe or happy?
I say do you, feel out life, take chances, and take lessons away from every situation, good or bad.
But remember, you have to TRY and let someone in to let them show you their intentions. Blocking out someone due to a horrible experience may cause you to pass up the “right” one or situation…
Food for thought…..
XO Brittani