Relationships 101

Okay so yours truly is single. Never had a boyfriend and never really had any luck with the dating scene. But somehow in my mind, I feel like building a connection with the opposite sex is worth it at the end. I'am always great at giving the advice, looking from outside the box into it. Now Im not stating I know everything and NO I'm not a counselor but I do know a thing or two from my own experiences, seeing my peers around me and living in a household with two parents. This blog came to my mind literally 1 mintue ago. I got an idea to write about this because I saw a bulletin a friend of mine had put out. It was practically " pouring out " her thoughts, emotions etc.To me there is nothing wrong with venting but what I did see was alot of things that differ in her mind that what a man may do,say,feel etc. My point is dating isn't easy, but it is easier when you understand the basics and try to understand the opposite sex. A foundation with someone is key in order to build something greater ontop of it. Now this blog will be short but hopefully informative to those who read;though this is only a small portion of what we all should think about, I think the pts I do hit are key. here are my thoughts:

Things Women Should Know:
-Do not txt/call/email/msg a man a million times if he does not respond right away. This is the easiest way for a man to think your clingy and men like their "own space". Doing this only causes him to pull back.
-Try not to ask him a million ?s after a long day or after he has expressed his day was bad. Men tend to answer questions when is necessary, not every second of everyday and especially not when hes angry.
-Be comfortable in your own skin&don't reach for attention. If a man is feeling or thinking something he wants to share with you, he will. Asking him what he thinks of you or your outfit or what you did for him constantly will lead him to think your insecure.
-Asking a man out or surprising him is a good thing! Don't let a guy think he HAS to buy you things,take you out, call you, txt you etc.This is 2009, YOU can show him your giving it your 50% by taking the 1st step&making an effort.
-Giving a man 100% of you physically is not attractive. Yes men are visual but if you send him naked pix right when you meet him, make sexual gestures 100% of the time and have sex with him right away, its pretty much sealing ur fate of him knowing ur not that "wifey" type&he will not chase you. Sex is something any1 can get from any1. It is a emotional and mental connection that will keep a man who is ready 4 commitment there in your presence.
-Constantly trying to dominate your man&act like your always right will leave you single. A man is a man for a reason& will not take a pushy woman very far with him. If you have an opinion, COMMUNICATE&calmly voice it, giving him a chance to voice his as well. It is important that addressing an issue is done by 2, and not done by 1 on an angry fashion.
-Be flexable. Men think in the moment and aren't as detailed and structured as women at times. If he asks to reschedule or calls a hour or two late, do not curse him out lol please. Make those little changes for harping on the little issues will make them think you will nit pick at everything and freak out if a bigger issue arises.


What Men Should Know:
-Women like plans. If you made plans with her for friday&the same day your buddy asks you to come chill, don't blow her off for something you can do the next day. Blowing off a girl for your homies makes her feel like shes not important. Family or personal issues are understandable but don't cancel on a date to go play video games.
-We need communication. If your having a bad week, do not ignore us for 7 days. Simply let us know whats going on&that you need space.Many good women will understand this&stay by your side while you work it out.Most will even make a effort to help you feel better&this is good because some woman wouldn't think twice2help you in a time of need.
-Appreciated&Acknowledge the little things we do! Many good women will plan out something cute or little for you just to see you happy such as showing up at ur game 2 support u when u didnt ask her to or sending u a goodmorning txt to see how how ur feeling if you were sick. All we ask is that u acknowledge it. Don't kiss our feet but see that we think highly enough of you to do something for you that someone else might not think of or care 2 do.
-Be consistent with your words&your actions. To us they go hand in hand. Women are very analytical so if you say your gonna take her out cause you wanna spend time then you bail without notice or a call, we take it hard. It makes us feel good when you follow through with both of those things, showing us your making just as much as an effort as we are.
-Say and do what you mean! If your not ready to date or be in a relationship, don't be in one or act like you want 1. One major problem females have with males is we all have been hurt in the past & are looking for someone to be honest& real in all the do/say. So if you act like your that man @ 1st with the opposite intentions, don't waste your time or our with trying to "play" around.
-Be fully committed. If your telling a girl ur dating or ur gf you only want them& are only with them,make sure you stick to that. We are used to being played with so don't have us& 3 other girls on the side that ur dating or being sexual with. Being sexual or physical with us&other women when u say its only us is unforgettable. It is the most disrespectful thing you can do and we will not forgive or forget it.
-We like affection. If your not a kisser, make sure she knows that from the jump and hold her hand instead. Always substitute something out for something you do like&let her know. We see this as a major effort to show us were wanted and remember we like the little things to.Random kissins/gestures or comments to make us smile is so small but so big to us.

My Advice To Everyone:
-Be yourself 100% of the time! I found out in my experiences the #1 reason I'am single is men have falsely portrayed themselves to me, as women do to men. When you meet someone, be straight forward from the beginning that way you both can figure out if there is a connection worth persuing or not. It is the biggest deal to change up in the middle of dating someone. It is a waste of everyones time and nothing was gained. even if your not looking for commitment right away, make that known and still be 'you'. You might end up falling for that person and if you were fake thinking that you didn't want anything and now do, your more than likely going2be hurt & alone for the other person will see you as fake. I think everyone eventually wants someone and wants to be happy. Its best in my eyes just to be real because you never know who you fall in love with and never know when your ready to fall.. :)